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Showing posts from February, 2007

The onset of tomorrow

They say everyday is a new day. I differ… and I don’t beg to do it.
It’s a re-hash of the same things that you’ve already gone through. Maybe the sequence has gotten altered along the way – butthat’saboutit.

We experience a set of re-sequenced occurrences each day and believe that we’ve had a whole new set of experiences. Yes – our emotions and feelings fail to recognize the connect.

I was wondering which one of the two made a better sequence to lead my life.
Say something emotional and get her all worked up
Don’t say anything, get her worked up & then say something emotional.
It goes without saying that she’d be worked up anyhow – that’s human(female) nature.

In the first case, she’d say I only thought about myself, was being selfish, inhuman, crude and behaving like a member of the male species from the Neolithic era.
I lose.

In the latter case, she’d take some time believing me, cos she’d feel that I was responsible for riling her up like that anyways. Then when she’d soften up and melt…

Trying to understand

Sometimes I have agonized over a question such as "why can't he/she understand how I feel?"
Maybe I've had an argument with him/her, and found that the more I talk, the more frustrated I get.

Or I thought I had explained something clearly to them, only to find out they later made a choice that left me thinking "I'd have been better off talking to the wall!"

At such times, it may help me to look closely at whether I was really looking for their understanding, or obedience?
If I'm lecturing my partner about how right my viewpoint is, for example, I give them the clear message that their viewpoint is "wrong", or "mistaken".

Have I really listened carefully and thoughtfully to their point of view?
Unless I truly have, it's hypocritical of me to expect them to listen to mine any better.

If I played back my words, I might find that I'm not only expecting them to agree with my point of view, but also make choices I want because of it.

Barren Earth

The truth about Afghanistan. A facet that is difficult to imagine, when you read a book. Yet the film comes close – that’s KABULEXPRESS for you.

I missed the film in the cinema – so I caught it on vcd. It evokes emotions – strong and light. The horrifying imagery of war mixes with the lightness that accompanies life. It all blends in, and the acting is good too. I didn’t really think an Indian director could come up with such an offbeat topic and make a good show of it. Kabir Khan does well.

John Abraham gives a fresh performance & Arshad is his usual comfortable self – fitting into the role of the sidekick cameraman. I think the best portrayal is that of the Taliban by Salman Shahid. He’s darn effective – the quintessential soldier following his orders, not really believing in the war or its vagaries. He only wants to live.
How difficult is that?

Very – I would say.
Especially, if you’re a Taliban in Post 9/11 Afghanistan.

I had the good fortune of reading “TheAfghan” before I saw the …