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Is it fair?

Saturday, October 28, 2006
Yes - There is a right to equality enshrined in our constitution.

Yes - injustice towards the fairer gender is still highly prevalent.

Yes - we need litigation in the civil arena - rather than restrict it to only the criminal arena - an act targeted towards Domestic Violence is essential!!

But this is a little over the top. I personally, have the deepest respect for women - but I am not in the mood to accept lying down - a law that is not balanced.

The Act covers women, be they wives, live-in partners, sisters, mothers, mothers-in-law or any other woman relation.
The new law protects them against:

Physical violence
For example: Beating, slapping, hitting, biting, kicking, punching, pushing, shoving or causing bodily pain or injury in any other manner.
Sexual violence, including against children
Forced sexual intercourse
Forces you to look at pornography or any other obscene pictures or material
Any act of sexual nature to abuse, humiliate or degrade you, or which is otherwise violative of your dignity or any other unwelcome conduct of sexual nature
Child sexual abuse
This part of the law was overdue. I agree it was required. Nobody wants to subject a woman - in any role, to Physical/Sexual violence

Verbal and emotional violence
Name calling

Accusations on your character and conduct etc

Insults for not having a male child
Insults for not bringing dowry etc
Preventing you or a child in your custody from attending school, college or any other educational institution
Preventing you from taking up a job, forcing you to leave your job
Preventing you or a child in your custody from leaving the house
Preventing you from meeting any person in the normal course of events
Forcing you to get married when you don't want to marry
Preventing you from marrying a person of your own choice
Forcing you to marry a particular person of his/their own choice
Threat to commit suicide
Any other verbal or emotional abuse
This is where the doubts start building towards the archaic fashion that the lawmakers have designed this new law. The honorable minister -Renuka Chowdhary, described it as a DIWALI GIFT. I have marked certain areas which give ambiguity a new name and leave avenues open to mischief.
Where's my protection if I have an argument with my partner?
So they both verbally abuse each other in the course of an argument - it's the man who goes to jail? This is a load of crap.
Who're the lawmakers to start telling us how to talk to another person?
If I call a man a cheater - no big deal. the moment I tell the same to a woman - it becomes a crime!! Who decides what is abuse?

Economic violence

Not providing you money for maintaining you or your children
Not providing food, clothes, medicines etc for you or your children
Stopping you from carrying on your employment or disturbing you in carrying on your employment
Not allowing you to take up an employment or taking away your income from your salary, wages etc A woman has a right to her husbands income - then why not vice versa? Today women earn equally if not more than many men. I do believe this law is essential , but needs to be tempered to meet the current conditions we live in.
Forcing you out of the house you live in
Stopping you from accessing or using any part of the house. So he has a room in the house that he's paid for where he needs a lil peace from her nagging. What then??
Not allowing use of clothes, articles or things of general household use
Not paying rent if staying in a rented accommodation. If the man and woman are both earning - then the law needs a modification.

I'm sure our law-makers have given it a lot of thought as they introduced this new law. But they have to a better job of educating the enforcers & prevent misuse. Trust me - this time, it won't be the men doing the misuse.
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Saturday rambling

Saturday, October 28, 2006
I hate working on Saturdays.
I hate admitting the fact that I'll probabaly be doing it for at least the next decade.

Saturdays are not made to be worked on.

But i'd rather sit at my office desk than be pushed around doing household chores.
I'd like to spend my saturday under the palm trees, swinging in a hammock as the light breeze blows, drinking beer reading my book or playing computer games. I could even be amenable to doing shopping (just once a year - around my birthday) if I didn't have to pay the bill(s) and we kept the dress trials to the trial room while I checked out the latest in gadgetry.

Saturday evening is strictly party time - booze,dance & Just the One woman (Ha ha - you thought i'd write something incriminating here) Alternately - we could do a movie once a month ona asaturday evening with just the two of us - and the candle light dinner to follow.. but that's a maximum of once a month!!!

Everything we do in relationships has some kind of payoff for us. Even when we do "unselfish" things, it bolsters our image of ourselves as kind, caring human beings.
When we take into account what effect choices will have on others, we become better aware of what consequences our choices will have.
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Stop thinking - Just write

Thursday, October 26, 2006
So I read a lot about what my fellow & feline bloggers write.

I like reading their ramblings.... some wild..some outrageous... but they somehow help take my mind off the daily chores that life throws my way. They write as it flows....

I do my bit of writing - I too, write as it flows - but try as I might - rambling doesn't come easy. That only happens when I try replying to Amandeep and Vandana at the same time. They'd look at me and play that serious "know it all" look and I know - it'd be time for Arjun to shut trap.

Today I was given a whole big lecture on caring and sharing. Yeah yeah my marriage is due for April... so mom and dad make it a point to drill some sense into me. I asked them if someone had said the same things to them. Apparently their generation had more maturity... so they say. I'm possssive about my books,my DVDs, my gadgets... hey who shares those... those are a part of my space...

My fiance has told me not to put her name in any of my writings and I shall oblige her on that point. But she's so much a part of my life that not writing about her - would leave any piece incomplete. She's so full of life - sometimes it scares me if I can match up. Then again - she makes a living with her arguments... I 'm never gonna win any of those - I know. But I shall persevere...

hasta la vista bab(ies)!!

This is my try at doing a daily ramble!!!
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Putting Acronyms to life

Wednesday, October 25, 2006
If only we could.... abbreviate everything we did...

As life turns out - SITCOMs
Single Income, Two Children, Oppressive Mortgage

This girl I met one time - BTDTGTS
Been There, Done That, Got The T-shirt

The QA Team (wherever you go) - CYA
Cover your ass

Going in for a review meeting - FYSBIGTBABN
Fasten Your SeatBelts It's Going To Be A Bumpy Night

Playing GOD sometimes - IMHEIUO
In My High Exalted Informed Unassailable Opinion

Watching Baywatch - IWSN
I want sex now

How it turns out - JAFO
Just Another F***ing Onlooker

The Politicians we meet - LOPSOD
Long On Promises, Short On Delivery

Love You With All My Heart

When I'm talking - MIHAP
May I Have Your Attention Please

If I were Bisexual - NTTAWWT
Not That There's Anything Wrong With That

Rita Tiwari - PEBCAK
Problem Exists Between Chair And Keyboard

Some Kids today - SNERT
Snotty Nosed Egotistical Rotten Teenager

Stuck at work - ZZZ
jeezz... you don't have to be a scientist to get that one
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Raising Atlantis

Tuesday, October 24, 2006
This is not a philosophical post.
It's about a book I read today.

Authored by Thomas Greanias, this is one edge of the seat thriller - right upto the end. Maybe I'm a sucker for such mythic Sc-fi thrillers.
But this one delivers pumped up adrenaline as promised.

It makes a good read if you're familiar with the legend of the lost city of Atlantis. This fable - deeply etched across most of our ancient civilizations is resurrected once again.

If there's anything common about all Atlantean tales - it's the use of the Pyramids of Egypt, the lost Mayan civilization and the mysteries of the areas around the South Pole as a means to explain something beyond normal comprehension.

The author goes to great lengths building up the characters, blending in multiple storylines and providing a heady mix of scientific fact coupled with folklore and prophecies of what might be.
It's his first novel - and rest assured - I'll be buying the next one when it comes out.
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Stepping ahead

Wednesday, October 18, 2006
I keep treading the path that's laid out for me - shaped as it is by Destiny!!!
It'll be interesting to see where this one goes.

This is not my seat - it's my brother's cabin - who also happens to be the director of the company.
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The DOR of our lives

Tuesday, October 03, 2006
That's hindi for string.
A string which when strung, connects and binds.

It's also the name of a film that I was fortunate to watch this weekend.
Directed by Nagesh Kukonoor (Hyderabad Blues, Rockford) and starring Ayesha Takia, Gul Panag and Shreyas Talpade - I thought it'd be a bore. This despite Avinash's claims to the opposite.

It is quite a film and everything fits in quite effortlessly.
Ayesha is no longer the bimbette of her earlier films; Gul is a revelation and Shreyas proves that Iqbal, his first film wasn't a fluke.

The story revolves around 2 young couples - from different worlds. They lead two seemingly different strings of life. Then the weaves of time bring these 2 threads together to create a situation that is difficult to describe. One man is dead. The other is accused of the crime. His wife must find the widow and seek her forgiveness which will spare him the capital punishment. It's a complex situtation.

How does one approach the bereaved widow for forgiveness for the slayer?
How does one let go of the pain and the anger and do the right thing?
What is the right thing?
Does a widow lead the life that is chosen for her - or does she do it her way?

It's not just about doing one's own thing. It's about responsibility for our actions as well.

This movie is definitely worth a watch!!
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