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A touch of sensibility

Monday, February 27, 2006

Every once in a while - yes - every once in a while - there are events that put you at the crossroads. I don't know if I'm at a cross-road; sure feels like that, though. OK - I accept - I am emotional, impulsive and follow the celluloid screen with a passion. But, let's not forget - that there's more where that came from.

There was a film called Baghban - it redefined my views on the parent-child relationship. I knew why I was wrong and the things I'd have to do to set them right. I'm not all the way home as yet - but I've made a start. I'm back in Delhi with the folks. Years of staying apart have changed me - it's not easy being all nice again!

Then there was Astitva - a film on the right to independence - man or woman. Space and acceptance are two very important things in a relationship. Why are things different for a man and a woman? The young ladies that I meet - fail to understand that I can think in a manner contradictory to conventionally established belief. Love is a feeling - all encompassing that needs expression. Sometimes, illicit as it sounds, that outlet is physical. My wife (if I ever marry) may not subscribe to that view. Yet - that day I will tell her- it's about maturity. Love is not necessarily physical. A physical manifestation with a person, when married to another - is a sign of immaturity or the lack of relief. The former I can understand & counsel. The latter is self explanatory. Every man admires the free bird and desires acquisition - only to cage it in the end! Oh! If they only knew the bird's beauty lay in its freedom. Women cannot accept (so easily) a man who just lets them be themselves. They feel it's a sham - designed to hasten the mating process.

Follow that up with Hazaaron Khwaahishen Aisi - the story of a generation gone by - my dad's generation. They are not classified under any particular marketing terminology as Gen X or Gen y - but they're there. They've seen the darkness of having democracy vanish, and return. I wonder if we will ever understand the value of what we have today. There was Independence in 1947. Then there was the Emergency of the 70s. A system designed to counter free thought and action. I'm not against the concept of shutting the door to the house to give the kids a spanking and set things right. But, at least hear them out. Their concerns could be valid. In this case they were more than valid. It's not about living with the system - as it exists. We have to learn to value what we have today. It did not come without a price.

Along came Rang de Basanti. A breath of fresh air. It puts on the screen - latent dreams, awakening, remembrance, a path, the light at the end of the tunnel. A new road, a new journey on display. Do I dare undertake? We all have fire within. We're only waiting for the sunrise to stoke the embers. Make your dream happen - strike a match within and light that fire. A nation of 1 Billion and we live our lives as though all is perfect. No nation is perfect - but the change has to start from the individual. Stop paying that policeman a bribe every time you get caught for breaking the traffic signal. Accept your wrongs and work to set them right. We never feel the pain of a corrupt nation - unless we suffer. Life is not all that hunky-dory. It's a spectrum and the level of grief is proportional to your place in it.
It's not about the life that was spent doing humdrum activities. The meaning of life is to give it meaning and focus. It's about a vision and making it come true. All that talk of literacy and big bucks is a whole lot of hog-wash. Today - I'm a manager in an MNC and dream of making it big there. It's my vision, my selfish dream. Owning a Mercedes - even though I don't drive - would be a symbol of - DREAM REALIZATION. It's funny that it takes a movie to make me see otherwise.
Responsibilities to my family, to me, to the people I interact with; they're all there - but there's something bigger than that - just waiting for me. I can feel it - have always done so. But it's dormant!!! I've gone with the flow for a long time.

It's time this river flowed in a direction that is useful.

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Pain @ Rs.30

Monday, February 20, 2006

I hate paying 30 bucks to travel from Okhla to Kalkaji. It's like 7-8 minutes of travel time and the buggers fleece you like it's nobody's business.

Then there is the pain of being - at the Head Office - as people - heads in the air - look upon us lower mortals.

The vegetarian lunch also costs 30 bucks @ work. It's a costly option for an upset stomach. More pain.

I need to go to mcdonalds and get a happy meal - that's the only thing that may cost sub-30.

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6 things...

Sunday, February 19, 2006

6 things that I don't do any more
Live with the folks - though they're just a few blocks down.
Drop anonymous valentine cards in the Mail boxes of beautiful women
Go on a drinking binge - very characteristic of the Engineering college
Aggressive behavior - that's just the age
Put gel on my head - the receding hairline
Crave for company - I'm not so bad by myself

6 things that I like (MOST) about women
The smile
The maternal assertiveness
Intelligence - although this should not be generalized
Inner strength
They are life givers.. a fact that none can deny
They understand me!!!

6 things that (I'm sure) she hates about me
Switching off and withdrawing into my cocoon
Sometimes I talk too much
The twin vices - Smoke over troubled water
I don't express it - every time (although it's right there)
Not getting her viewpoint sometimes
I can shed tears when in an emotionally charged state - in reel & real life!

6 to dos in the next hour
Say, “I love you to at least 6 people” (Family included)
Cook dinner
Eat it - obviously!!!
Publish this blog
Listen to good music as I cook
Wish she had told me things that she didn't like about me - rather than me take guesses at it

6 People (other than kin) close 2 me (This is the tough one - I hate to choose)

The Men
Vishal Rao
Shabbar Tambhawalla
Shyamal Gupta
John Wesley
Mallikarjun Bhat
Gautam Talwar

The Women - they never judged me!!
Manu Sareen
Ranjini Das Gupta
Sarbani Bose
Mohua Bhowal
Madhuri Bogawat

6 dreams - One just ain't enough!!
Seeing her SMILE - every morning as I awake
Raising a family of 4 kids and having enough for each
Being able to remain true to all that I believe in
Retirement at 40
Running a mile in 6 minutes at the age of 65
Being around on my parents' platinum jubilee.

6 bloggers I wanna tag.
John Wesley - for the things I get to learn there & the lucid style
The gentleman who has his blog at
Mallikarjun Bhat - for being a normal person - expressing his feelings as they come
The Denzil devil - for his youthful writing style
Crazy Sonya
Niyati - for being the Diva
Jolein - I know she writes - but doesn't tell where!!!

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The Valentino Fever

Tuesday, February 14, 2006
Yes –it’s that day again – 9 months to go for children’s day – the results will be there for all to see!!
Just kidding. (Jeez – no pun intended there!!)

So what plans for the day – that’s the question I’ve been answering for awhile? Me – I’m a simple guy – no hang-ups. So I’ll just go for lunch and come back to work. The question is with whom? Who would endure me for 90 minutes of lunchtime? I don’t stop talking (if I get started) and then boom – kapok – world goes topsy-turvy!!

So why 14th February?
The question has been around for sometime now.

Is it like – we’re welcoming spring and all the good boys, good girls and not so good people (AKA Shiv Sena & Bajrang Dal) get together for a day out in town. Paint it red – so to say.

Or maybe they had an excess production of Roses – so the marketing managers – used this as a ruse – to offload the excess production at excessive rates. This is kind of possible!!

Let’s not forget that there was a gentleman by the name of Valentine – a saint says some – who brought lovers together. He ran the 1300s version of a marriage bureau. He did this Free of cost – the only condition being a big birthday bash on his day – which was 14th Feb (what did ya expect?). He passed away – time went by and then this smart marketing manager caught on to the idea and voila!!!

So What does one do on V Day (Mistakenly known as Victory Day - turn the V around and you know what you're lookin at)

I did send messages to my friends and loved ones (why is it 'ones' when one is singular) and got their replies.. yes it made me feel good.
There is still some love around... !!!
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Canine Learnings!!!

Tuesday, February 14, 2006

You would learn stuff like...

  • When loved ones come home, always run to greet them.
  • Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride.
  • Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure ecstasy.
  • When it's in your best interest, practice obedience.
  • Let others know when they've invaded your territory.
  • Take naps and stretch before rising.
  • Run, romp, and play daily.
  • Thrive on attention and let people touch you.
  • Avoid biting, when a simple growl will do.
  • On warm days, stop to lie on your back on the grass.
  • On hot days, drink lots of water and lay under a shady tree.
  • When you're happy, dance around and wag your entire body.
  • No matter how often you're scolded, don't buy into the guilt thing and pout - run right back and make friends.
  • Delight in the simple joy of a long walk.
  • Eat with gusto and enthusiasm. Stop when you have had enough.
  • Be loyal.
  • Never pretend to be something you're not.
  • If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it.

And MOST of all...
When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by and nuzzle them gently.

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Frittering thoughts

Tuesday, February 07, 2006
To no one in particular... I don't have any problem - right now.
So why am I thinking about it?
Must be that risk mitigation that I keep practicing at work... rubs off on the way I live my life too.Maybe someone can do something about it. (actually nobody can - I just put that here to get you started thinking) Maybe u can guide me. I mean - it's worth a try.

Just a few thoughts that crossed my station.
A lot of ups and downs. Right now I'm on an up - shouldn't really be worrying about the downs. But thatwhat you gotta do to look at things before they come to you. Paranoia is the word that comes to mind here. Just have to come to grips with the fact that things always balance out at the end. That's life.

Memories remain for as long as we want them to. They help us go on as we move through the morass of life's activities. Remind us of what was, what could have been and then why the proposed solution didn't come through. Jeez - there I go - sinking into my Job again - always solutioning!!
Sometimes we go to the solution - sometimes it comes to us. I wonder which approach to benchmark. Umm.. this should keep me thinking awhile...
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What winners do

Wednesday, February 01, 2006
This something - winers do - after winning - especially in the lottery!!!
I picked up these happenings as i browsed the net at a lottery site
  • Just by chance a winner's girlfriend checked his trouser pockets before she put his jeans into the washing machine and found a jackpot winning ticket worth around £1.5 million.
  • Three lads who were out on the town were refused at a nightclub because they did not have shirts and ties. They went to an all night Tesco and bought some new shirts - with the change they bought a scratchcards and won £20,000 - they celebrated all night in the nightclub!
  • Edwin Thrasher was stony broke before he won, and one day he touched the ring that his father left him when he died, and said, "Dad, please send me some money." That afternoon he won £50,000 on a scratchcard.
  • A winner went in to a car showroom on his way back from picking up his cheque and entered a competition to win a car, the model of which he had always wanted. He actually won the car!
  • A young man, dressed in jeans, went in to a Mercedes dealership following his win - the salesmen ignored this rather ordinarily dressed young man but one of the female sales staff ended up selling him a top of the range car!
  • A man was walking under a tree and a bird pooped on him - as this is supposed to be lucky, he decided to buy a Fortune 4 scratchcards ticket and won £24.00. The following week the same thing happened, a little bird pooped on him from the same tree! So he went and bought another National Lottery Fortune 4 and won £444. He now spends time on Wednesdays and Saturday standing under that lucky tree, waiting for that little bird to...
  • Scratchcard winner, Brenda Wainwright, hired a limousine to go and collect her £50,000 winnings.
  • Jackpot winner Marjorie Longdin was so excited when she won that she forgot to take her ticket with her when she went to collect her winnings.
  • One lady was so excited about winning that she literally wanted to shout from the rooftops. Her Winners Advisor took her on to the roof of the building and let her shout "I've Won!" to the whole of Merseyside.
  • One little old lady arrived at the Regional Centre dragging an enormously long sports bag. With an expression of surprise and bewilderment she said that her sister had recommended she bring it with her for that "enormous cheque they give you".
  • Sarah Louise Wood fainted when she realised she had won £75,000 on a scratchcard - she went to collect her money with a black eye.
  • The longest celebration by winners was by a pub syndicate from London who celebrated for almost two weeks.
  • Police were called out by concerned neighbours who believed that the people living next door were being burgled due to the amount of noise. They were in fact celebrating their £2 million jackpot win.
  • Billy Gibbons renamed his chicken 'Kiev' to 'Lucky' when the faithful foul trampled on his owner's calculator, selecting five winning Lotto numbers. 'Lucky' now helps Billy pick his Lotto numbers every Saturday morning.
  • The worst celebration was a couple who went out to buy a bottle of wine after winning £1.5 million and they realised they didn't have a corkscrew.
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