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More Memoirs - just a few snaps

Saturday, February 26, 2005

On our way back from the Nawal Weeraytan Camp - 10th Nov 02
Ranjini has struck up her most famous Pose.
Abhishek is quite serious in the foreground.
Atul looking quite sophisticated in his shades
Me in cream jacket and cap.. speechless at her pose!!!
CP in Red.... where are the Bulls???
Harpreet on my head..!!!

Our trip to the lake and back. - 9th Nov 02.
Manmeet in Black
Ranjini is in a very sombre pose here
Shilpa is right next to me
The only guy with a cap - me
Debashish in Grey and Black
Abhishek - between Shilpa and Ranjini.
Amit - Trying his luck with Priya
Achal - right extreme
The Lakeside view..! The 3rd day of the was decided to go for a hike..a trek if you may please at 6AM. The students were ready on time. The guide was late. You can say - we went down a mountain ..touched a pole and climbed back up the mountain. The only acheivement of the day was a 95 pairs of tired limbs

Hemant's hands reach out towards Pallavi as Pandian, Sachin and Rajat look up to the heavens
He held on to those hands for a long long time thereafter - boyfriend not withstanding.

V for Victory... so the sign says.
Ladies Shilpa, Ms.Ghatge,Sonali
Guys Amit, myself, Arshad,Namit Pandian,Sourav, Achal
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catching the eye...

Thursday, February 24, 2005
Have you ever wanted to catch someones eye...?
To be noticed as you talk and walk...!
To be be engrossed... but still be noticed..

Dunno about you , but I sure would like to catch the eye.
Especially that special someone.

Now who's this special someone?

She's a pretty lady at work.
Looks good, talks better, and really smart.
Helps me out several times in the day - but again to her - I'm just a PM.
Also, I'm aware of others who would like to hold her in their arms...
That isn't normally a problem..until now!!
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Group EQ

Saturday, February 19, 2005
This is something we started discussing in the last post.
So lets go on...

No one would dispute the fact that we need to be good team workers to succeed in the present day and age. It is thus, of primary importance that we get the teams to work more effectively.
I believe that the real source of a Teams success lies in addressing base level issues.
These base level issues - 3 in number are essential to a groups effectiveness
  1. Trust among the members,
  2. a sense of group identity, and
  3. a feeling of group efficacy.
When these conditions are absent, going through the motions of cooperating and participating is still possible. But the team will not be as effective as it could be, because members will choose to hold back rather than fully engage.
So what behaviour do EQ teams employ to build the environment that makes them so effective?
Emotionally Intelligent teams:

-> build awareness and regulate feelings

Like high EQ individuals, high EQ teams develop ways to uncover what people are really thinking, feeling; they also regulate the expression of feelings so they are conveyed in a positive not destructive way.

-> recognise that feelings must be managed at three levels
a key difference between individual and team EQ behaviours is that teams have to be mindful of the feelings of a wider range of people including:

team members

the team as a whole

people outside team boundaries in organisation

Emotionally intelligent teams therefore create awareness and regulate feelings at all three levels of interaction, because failure to do so at any level can result in dysfunction and damage performance.

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Saturday, February 19, 2005
TGIF.... I say to those around me....
"Yeah..but you're making us work Saturday too", is the not so muted reply.

Heads hanging down - I can see it across the teams.
I hate myself for it. Should have planned better - they should have produced better.
In any case..we are all in ON Saturday

"How well we respond as a team, depends on how well the team responds to me"
This is an important mantra when managing teams and I seem to be getting into the groove with it.
I'm currently heading 4 teams across differenct sectors of the Microsoft Universe.
There are teams working on IIS , on the Burton - VSTS , Exchange Server issues and of course the Office Online Video Creation.
We're developing ILTs (instructor led trainings) for the first 3 and the last one has a self explanatory name.

By now, most executives have accepted that emotional intelligence is as, if not more critical than IQ. This is with regards the individuals effectiveness. I believe (and so do many others) that EQ can be applied on the team perspective too. EQ is no longer an individual competency - my team is affected by my behaviour. So we are all responsible for EQ.

More in the next post
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Half the week is over....

Thursday, February 17, 2005
The eternal Optimist.
Halfway through Wednesday....

That's half the official week gone... (I may have to do a working weekend.. but I never factor that into my calculations).
So we're half done!! :-)

Got in at noon - rushed onto a Conference call with Lydia, Russel, Andy, Jags, Brenda, Parijat.... and the rest of the gang. 45 minutes used up... and we're still aimless

The Video Creation project is an impenetrable jumble of poorly organized data with cryptic labels to boot. In layman terms - holy crap!!!

I have a busy day planned ahead.. con calls starting at 8:30 PM till midnight.
The IIS 6.0 project is coming along fine.. Burton(VSTS) is driving us up the wall... MOM 2005 is almost done....SMSg is a wait'n'watch now. Paul should be responding today.

I have picked up this book on Warships... from 1860 to the present day - Interesting read... more like a category wise explanation.. even has some of our Naval ships in it !!!
Think I'll make another blog on Warships.

Lonleiness is catching up... don't like going home any more
I thought I'd be fine esp since I read this article of Single 'uns like me - being go getters and not relying on the group phenomena for films, clubbing etc.
Thought it made sense at that point of time. Now I feel otherwise.

Am planning to go for the Mark Knopfler concert when it happens in Mumbai. I'm not an extreme DS fan, but I like their rhythm and think it makes sense to go for it. Opportunities don't come all the time.
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Valentine Monday

Tuesday, February 15, 2005
Valentines day on a monday... hmm.. quite interesting.
But I'm actually happy its a monday. That way when I'm in office with my workload - i won't let my mind flitter away on to the mushy parts of life.

It's now 11PM at night.
Am still in office. Wondering when I'll be able to leave.
Not too soon though.
We have a video delivery to Microsoft. Krista will eat off my head, if we miss this one.
Today also happens to be my boss' wedding anniversary. Good luck to her I say..!!!

At this rate I'm gonna stay single for quite awhile.
I got pretty nostalgic today and emailed several groups, several old and memorable snaps.
The replies were encouraging. Some people remember.Warms my heart
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Today is Soumyas engagement

Sunday, February 13, 2005
Soumya is tying the knot...
She's a lucky girl - gets to marry the guy she loves.

She's also my best friend.
But today I'm not there by her side - wishing her all the best for her future with Mahesh.

We men are also a vrey possessive lot. That's why boyfriends hate it when their lady love has another male friend. Especially whom she trusts a lot.

Let me tell you a story.
I met Soumya on the first day at B-School.

We became good friends. Apart from common interests such as reading and music, we are also both Virgos.
She would confide in me and I in her. So despite the fact that we went around with separate people - we were best friends.
I remember that day - Valentines Day of 2002. We were bith single at that time - me because I had just broken up with Shilpa and She because she still hadn't started going around with Mahesh. I was to leave for Delhi for conducting the Interviews for the next batch of B-School aspirants ; the accounts terminal paper ended and I came home to pack.
She came in after a while and then she wept. She had had an argument with somebody at college
I held her close and felt her tears on my shoulder. .
We both comforted each other, taking solace in the fact that friends were better than lovers. They were safer, more understanding and you could say things to them without fear.

(L-R) Ranjini, Madhuri, Soumya, Puja, Sudeshna
These 5 were my close friends at Symbiosis

Then we entered the second year. Mahesh entered her life. They did well together.
She was still an integral part of our group - he wasn't.
She could still cry on my shoulders and I on her. But then, divided attention - doesn't work for many of us. So she began to cut off slowly from us. The Photograph above was the last one we all had as a group. This was during our farewell party in March 2003.

We still remained in contact, albeit losing touch.
Then came the phase when she'd not take my calls, not answer the SMS'. One day I managed to get her on the phone and gave her a piece of my mind. But she made pieces of my mind and told me that for the sake of her relationship with him - she'd have to cut short our friendship. It hurt- more than any breakup I'd gone through.
Why do we males have so much insecurity about the people we love ?
Why can't two individuals share a platonic friendship?
So what if they're from opposite sexes.

I have talked to her on a few occassions after that - only because she didn't have mu telephone number and so didn't know the caller ID on her mobile phone. This friendship is dead.

So when I called up Madhuri, and she told me she was at Soumyas engagement - why does it hurt?
The answer is simple - its difficult to kill friendship.
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Roller Coaster Friday

Saturday, February 12, 2005
Yeah.. this was a Fast one.
got home at 4 am..
fried eggs and bread for dinner (actually closer to breakfast)
more later..
its Saturday now... half past midnight
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Memoirs Again...

Friday, February 11, 2005

Campion Days - Class 10A
Batch of 1993
Sitting (L-R) Siddharth Rastogi , Shabbar Tambhawalla, Ashish Gupta, Ian Pinto, Jogesh Lulla, Kumarmangalam Bagrodia
Standing Row 1 (L-R) Varun Rai, Rahul Guha, Nitin Kagzi, Raunak Shah, Amit Kumar, Dhananjay Pratap, Harshwardhan Bhuwalka, Anshul Pathania, Ashish Bhiwandikar, xxx
Standing Row 2 (L-R) xxx, Karthik Ganeshan, Raghav Ramdev, Sachin Ranganathan, Karthik Deora, Vishal Rao, Pavit Chaddha , Arjun - yep thats me
Standing Row 3 (L-R) Kush Mehta, Anand Dhuldhoya, Meherwan Joshi, Anant Bajaj, Gurpal Dhingra, Burjis Cursetji, Marzee Devichand.
So I guess I got all the names, but 2. Not bad - 12 year s after passing out of school and not having been in contact with most of the people in this snap.
I Spent 9 years at Campion. All the formative years were spent here, and we did form up well at the end of it. Today, people say that the Campionites are quite snooty and snobbish. Never really felt it at that point of time.
We had a mixed crowd and more than 70% of us had spent 6 years or more together. There was Anant Bajaj from the famous family bearing that name. He was one of the most down to earth guys around.
There was Karthik, scion of the Deora clan - no attitude problem there either.
The others a mix of the Super rich , upper middle and service classes. Oh there were a few rotten apples around - but on the whole, snootiness was an external trait
Maybe later batches may have changed things - but for me, for US, the batch of 93 - Campion was home.
Will talk about our Teachers in the next post.
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I took a Wednesday thursday is painful.

Friday, February 11, 2005
More than taking it off.... I was actually switched OFF on wednesday.
Left office at 3AM and crashed... with the lights on.

Called in at 12:30 PM... said I'd make it.... but the situatiion worsened and I couldn't even get out of bed. So I slept again.. lights are still ON....
Awoke to the sound of a Phone Call.. it was Mohua.. asking if all was well!!!
Well... no i was not well...!
I missed a few subsequent calls... Andy forgave me when he heard my sorry explanation

In any case... i went for the 36 hr period without food.... dog tired... aching bones etc
Came into office and found 75 emails (some in Bold font) on my desk... not their fault. Nobody was aware that I wasn't IN yesterday.

I read my horoscope in the morning... supposed to be a good day today... still a supposition, anyhow.

Now I'm on a call with my boss in the US.. She is a very understanding lady. Lydia really knows how to appreciate hard work and dedication. Makes it a real pleasure to work for her.

Its 11PM here. I'm still at my seat. Jagadish, my Instructional Designer is also with me. We're up waiting for the Video Production team to complete their Sync Process... and then he gets a grab at it.
I really like this pic.. it reminds me of an age of innocence. An age.. when the spirit was free and life was free of the mundane. Each day was a new adventure, when there were new friends to be made. No prejudices existed. Life was like a fresh flower blooming each morning. Eating dad's cooking from mom's hands. Playing with the pets and being totally carefree... Oh how I miss those days!!!

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This Week is not gonna be good

Wednesday, February 09, 2005
Tuesday morning... shit has hit the fan!!! :-(
Not the best way to start the day.

I had spilt milk all over my floor...
Then Andy called and told me how we missed a bug fix - oops

Reached office - checked my email- and voila, what have we here!!!
Lots of emails - client questions , boss' stinkers, team gyaan..
Where do I start? Frankly, I'm at a loss today - It's like I wish I were in Limbo(actually I am).
Called up Steve - he won't let me call up Jason - better luck here, maybe!!
No Luck... they're all out of contact.. . Won't be long before I go BOOM!!!

I have another 14-15 hour workday today. This is getting on my nerves now.
I have been hanging in there for sometime now. LG gave me more tension than this.....
Now I'm gonna go through my mood swings... and then the fun shall begin.

It's noon... i need a break...vacation....whatever

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Quote Unquote

Tuesday, February 08, 2005
Here are some comments I came across on a site... need to start applying these more diligently going forward.

Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity;
and I'm not sure about the universe

(applies to lots of people I meet on a regular basis - at work, at play, go wherever I may)

The distinction between the past, present and future is only a
stubbornly persistent illusion

(some people refuse to grow up... this ain't college anymore. Nor is this a mom-pop operation we're running here. Lets get professional dudes.)

Never argue with an idiot. They drag you down to their level, then beat
you with experience

(ever try arguing with those at a senior post in Age, profession - and supposed maturity)

I can please only one person per day. Today is not your day. Tomorrow's not looking good either

(all my clients beware!!!)

Needing someone is like needing a parachute. If he isn't there the first time you need him, chances are you won't be needing him again.

(for all my friends who've stood by me.. and some who didn't)

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B-School people!!

Tuesday, February 08, 2005
Twisting... turning.. meandering..crashing... but always rising!!!
That's my life in a nutshell.

Well I spent 2 yrs at Biz School.
Lotsa interesting folks there.
A few individuals caught my attention for myriad reasons (not all logical).
They would have plenty to say about me. I look forward to their comments.

Amit :
Parth : never left a job unfinished
Manu : great organizer
Sudheshna : very laid back.. chilled out life
Jayant : play now... worry later
Vineet : most balanced person I knew.
Puja : worries too much
Ranjini : afflicted with animals
Sharad : old man new tricks..
Shilpa : Perfectly imperfect (or vice - versa)
Abhishek : very very punju
Alok Mishra : keeping ahead of the times.. He was the only married person amongst us.
Priya : bombs away.. hit on target(me)... but I was the wrong target
Arshad : Cassanova.. he was the actual target!! :-)
Prateem : bindaas.. he's actually a country manager now...
Aditi : big eyes. determined to succeed.....always
Sonit : Always in Tension
Anuj : Quantitative Genius
Debashish : Stick to the rulebook
Ashutosh : devious.. and calculating
Sonali : Brainwave
Raghu: mamu....
Ruby : Sweet Talker..
Nikhil : Wished he was Vivek Oberoi... that way he could get Antra Mali
Ashok : Forthright and Frank
Pandian : Great on wacky ideas..
Hemendra : tom boy
Shitij : chillax...
Amit Bora : Style bhai - esp : the hare rama kurta he wore for the presentation
Nishit : Chaandni Bar
Ashish Agrawal : Changu
Salil : no Comments

whew.. it's not easy to get the thoughts into place everytime... will keep updating this one
I might even change a few to ensure that sensibilities can be rehablitated

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Manic Monday.....

Monday, February 07, 2005
Our First delivery for the Burton Project...

That's right, this much talked about project has started happening.
We have our first delivery for Unit 2 today.

Reshma, Abhishek, Richard and Steve... all workin together to make it happen.
This is going to be one manic monday.. add to that the COO's visit and you can imagine how things are gonna liven up, this side of the Atlantic.

Andy is gonna lynch me if I don't have that project monitor report ready.. should have it done by noon for a few projects.

Then call up Lydia at 9PM... whew.. have a full day cut out 4 me.

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The Marriage Bandwagon

Monday, February 07, 2005
I'm 27...!!
still single...


But then again - I'm in minority.
Sitting in the opposition are a host of Successful marriages.
Lets start with the one that got me going - Mom and Dad. Been through thick and thin for the last 29 years.

Thats them on their 25th Anniversary
They are the ones I Look upto.

Now - from the engineering class of 99.
We were a group of 8.
6 have succumbed to pressures - internal and external.
Arul and me are the only ones left.

The MBA class of 03.
Well.. it does warm my heart to see so many college sweethearts tying the knot.
First there was Raghu - Sonali, then there was Vikas - Anjali, Prateek - Neha, Debashish-Deepa. I'm still hopefule for a few more.
Really glad that these realtionships acheieved what they set out to.
Lotsa others have since tied the knot, or are in the process of doing so. Bets of luck to them I say.

I went wrong somewhere...
Had my chances and I blew 'em. I'm sure many women around, found me disappointing in the Everlasting commitment sector of life.
Anyways, that's life.

What I'm getting to here, is that we can and should wait for life to take it's own turns. Hunting for a life partner - is it worth it?? Now, my folks are also in search mode. - for Tina and me (oh Tina is my lil sis)
To make them feel better - I started searching on my own too.. put up my profile on a few matrimonial websites. As of now - I had 553 hits on my profile - but I feel odd when I respond to messages.

My process :
Me Meet girl
We become friends
We fall in love
Evaluate situation
Decide to tie knot
Seek blessings.
Tie knot.
Walk into sunset...

Proposed Process
Me Meet girl
Evaluate situation
Decide to tie knot
Seek blessings.
Tie knot.
Walk into sunset...( would this step happen.. dunno)
We become friends
We fall in love

Comments anyone?????
The bandwagon shall roll on tomorrow...


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Sunday working...

Monday, February 07, 2005
Guess what.. i actually went guzzling beer on Saturday.
My Fav spot - Mondegars (mondys) in Colaba.
The music .. the crowd.. the Pitcher and Me.. what a combo!!!

Oh well.. in any case - here I am on a Sunday evening, in my lil cubicle.. in office
Checking emails, waiting for emails from a few females.. and some males too.

I did conduct a small SMS question answer session yesterday, while I guzzled.

Q: What would you like to do on an ideal weekend?
Sample size :40 sms' were sent. Most people - disgregarded it, but some went ahead and responded.
Here are the responses (with Names)

Madhuri Bogawat
Ideal weekend? wat is tat...
just a switch from office work to house work
Ideally, it should be just lazying around doin nothin

Sudeshna Mazumdar
Stay home and sleep:-)
its become so rare

Anupama Lopes
At a beach resort in self imposed exile :-)

Harpreet Randhawa
Chill out and shop and then est...he..he

Who is this???

Kunal Rao
Huh? What prompted that?
i'm in Jaipur

Kapil Kathuria
I'm in fact doing work

Jatin Mahajan

Rinku Mahajan
I have very exciting weekends. Too busy no time for husband

Sarbani Bose
Just slog... for nothing.

The Verdict is partying is Passe.. Lazying it out is IN

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Memoirs.. i also do these

Sunday, February 06, 2005
It's interesting.. how time flies

This was taken in the first week of Business School.
All new individuals, gathered for an Ice Breaking Session
Standing(L-R) Alok , Parth, Manmeet, Natasha, Sudeshna, Zeba, Monalisa, Aanchal.
On Knees(L-R) Debashish, Myself, Sunita
Sunita and Zeba... left in a few days - but the rest persevered.
We passed out from the Symbiosis Institute of International Business in the year of our lord 2003.

We were divided into 3 groups of 30 members(approx) strength and had to present our Talents... either individually or in groups.

What I find interesting in retrospect was the fact that everyone was open to new relationships... we all had to make friends then... and in most cases... bonds established at that point of time.. stayed true.

I remember the Mission statement at college
" To Reinforce the Wealth Generation efforts of the Nation
by Transforming young Graduates
into Socially Conscious, Responsible, Healthy
and Contemporary Managers for the Global Community."

Wonder how many of us(me included) followed the 3rd Line seriously.

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First time in...

Sunday, February 06, 2005
What do you say.. the first page on a diary?

Sitting in office on a Saturday afternoon.. (i should've been home.. or at the club guzzling beer)
But here I am, reading my emails, wondering how to get my meandering unsocial lifestyle back on track.
Do I have a hope in hades? nope... not as long as I have to call up the US every night at 9.. and sometimes after midnight.
Have I had enough? Definitely not.
Way to go before I think of calling it quits here... oh, did I tell you I work at Lionbridge handling Projects as a part of their Indian operations.

More Later

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